Music is good for the soul, and it plays a big role in most of our lives. It enables us to be brought back to a time in the past, bring ourselves out of a bad mood, or create a number of feelings within. What you may not realize is that music can actually have a detrimental affect on your divorce healing process.

For many of us, our intuition tells us to turn on the music when we need a pick-me-up, and that is a fantastic thing to do…BUT certain kinds of music can actually bring us down instead of providing the energy boost we needed. The interesting part is that many people have no idea this is happening and could not tell you why they feel worse after listening to music – whether it is immediately or some time later.

According to studies, music stimulates areas of the brain that are linked to reasoning, memory and emotion. It is used in many forms of therapy for patients recovering from illnesses, memory loss, and within the psychological realm. Music has an amazing capacity to heal…but when it comes to divorce healing there is a caveat.

As many songs are about relationships, lost love and break-ups, listening to them can subconsciously cause us to feel down. If we are feeling sad, lonely, fearful, or experiencing other negative emotions related to divorce, listening to music about feeling down does not seem to be a logical solution to help improve mood! We need to stimulate the feel-good hormones and the areas of the brain that will improve mood and emotional capacity.

One great way to do this is to sensor your music temporarily. You can create your own playlist of feel-good songs or you can switch to spiritual music – there are many phenomenally talented spiritual artists out there – Trevor Hall and Satsang helped me get through healing in a big way. Their feel-good sounds and messages allowed me to get lost in the music, dance, and feel better overall. I completely switched over to this type of music for an entire year, but you do you – you are the only one who knows how you feel.

I advise trying this for a short time – perhaps 2 weeks. Notice how you feel and whether your moods seem to improve, and write about it in a journal. It is fascinating to notice this once you are aware. Let me know what you discover! 🦋